There's something in the air

Has this ever happened to you? When despite everything that's not right in your world, you are still very happy. From the heart. Something acts as a catalyst and everything seems fine again. Even if it isn't so. Maybe a small piece of good news in someone else's life. Maybe a child's smile aimed at you. Maybe the feel good weather. Maybe renewed hope. Maybe a good night's sleep. Maybe a great meal after days of not eating right. Maybe a great cheerful friend. Anything. Everything!

You just feel more equipped to deal with anything that comes your way. Like the universe wanted you to quit being unhappy . Like it was waiting to happen. Waiting for you to sit up and take notice of happiness knocking on the door?

I don't know why but it makes me believe in the saying by Paulo Coehlo all the more

"When you want something, all the universe conspires in helping you achieve it"


Circumstances always test our patience, grit, determination and faith. Pass that test and you can fall apart later! All that you have to do is ask honestly and you shall get it. Life has proved this to me every single time!

The weather is just unbelievably good these days. The wind chime at my window continues to chimes as I write this. I absolutely love this time of the year, when it is neither too not, nor too Cold. Windy yet not chilly. Sunny yet not hot.

Life these days is busy but throw in a two day off and I am all for it!

You're right. This sure is bereft of substance, but I just had to put down the feel good feeling in words :-)

In Random Order

I've been away for a long time now, and so much changed since. Someone fell ill, someone just got better, someone is expecting a baby, someone just got promoted and  someone else looks forward with a lot of hope. The world whizzes past while you are stuck up with something that is humongous to you and shows no signs of coming to a standstill. Life these days is anything but relaxed.Frenzied would be putting it mildly.  After ages I have a two day off. If there is a something beyond breathless I am there! Everything is moving with such a fast pace that it gets me dizzy! Which is why someone very bright came up with the saying eons ago "Slow down and take the time to smell the flowers". I'd like to do more. Go on a vacation for the rest of my life!

Feel my breath taken away by a sight like this

Ladakh

Or catch a sunrise in the Himalayan Range in Nepal

Or spend time with myself at the Takstan Monastery in Tibet

Or experience spirituality in a place like this

Or go on a pilgrimage to Kedarnath

Get married

And Experience motherhood. So much to do, and only two days! Tch..

You haven't lost your smile at all, it's right under your nose. You just forgot it was there.

P.S I admit that this post was very me-centric. The aim was just to convey that I am still alive and very much here. In between sleeping for 11 hours straight and eating the rest of the time, I may not be able to visit you. The absence sure is regretted.

HAPPY DIWALI

Unforgotten Memories ..

The memories still haunt like it happened yesterday.. 

The wounds still run deep..

You can always run ..

But there is no hiding from the memories..

They catch up with you, when you least want them to..

There is no stopping the tears..

There is a limit to how much you can hold inside..

They can't be blamed..

What happened long ago, must be promptly forgotten..

Why then does it become so difficult to forget what you'd least like to remember?

They say that everything happens for a reason..

But the reason is still unknown..

Was it really for the greater good?

To err is human..

But there is no justification to something done in a fit of rage..

Words do more damage than physical injuries..

The scars remain forever..

Deeply embedded in the psyche..

It's said that anger turned inwards translates to guilt..

Guilt held for longer than it should..translates to a lifetime of misery..

Is there any redemption?

There surely must be..

For He never does anything without a reason..

If this is a life we've chosen..

We must also possess the power to change the course..

If only He'd make his presence felt..


P.S: I've been away from the blogging scene for QUITE some time now..and this is ..uhmm..withdrawal symptoms!!

You become fearless when you lose that which you value the most

Vinita Dawra Nangia 
TIMES NEWS NETWORK 

The enemy is fear. We think it is hate; but, it is fear. 
    — Mahatma Gandhi 
    WE are often warned not to push anyone into a corner because that is when they fight their best and most vicious battles. A good hunter will never force a wild animal in a situation from where it perceives no escape; the animal must feel there is still some escape route. Because it is when the animal loses hope of escape, that it will fight at its wildest and cause the worse harm. A cornered creature, man or animal, is dangerous, even vicious. For, that is the point at which one loses all fear. You become fearless when you lose that which you value the most. Because, when that happens, the rest doesn’t really seem to matter as much. And, you also realise the futility of having lived in fear of losing something that is now beyond reach. 
    You understand that you could possibly have been able to enjoy the finer intricacies of your object of desire much more if you hadn't lived in constant fear of losing it. When you lose it, you see the futility of all the anxiety, the heartburn over it. You start looking for and finding ways of living without it. And the human mind and spirit, amazingly resilient as they are, discover reasons and conviction for why you are better off without that which is now lost. 
    And that is the point at which you start enjoying the positive aspects of fearlessness. For, when you fear nothing, nobody can manipulate you anymore. You would be your own person and not dependent on anyone for your happiness or peace of mind. Your best bouts of courage are reserved for times when you have nothing to lose. 
    In ancient warfare, commanders would often burn the boats their army arrived in order to obliterate any threat of their soldiers turning tail and escaping. With their only means of retreat cut off, the only way to safety for the soldiers was to fight till victory, or they would be literally fighting till death. That’s how the phrase ‘burning one’s boats’ or ‘burning one’s bridges’ originated. 
    Most manipulations in relationships occur because we hand over the weapon of our fear to be used against us to those we love most. A lover is able to manipulate his beloved’s emotions by threatening withdrawal of love and care. He will sulk, not talk or withdraw caring gestures — all the things that a loved one values. So you give in, bow to the will of the lover, and make compromises, all for fear of losing that which is cherished. 
    On the other hand, if the lover overplays his hand and carries on the withdrawal act beyond a point, the beloved may finally get used to the idea of rejection and taking the loss as a fait accompli, lose all fear in the relationship. 
    Fear of losing leaves you impotent not just in relationships but also in everyday situations such as your work life, with friends or relatives and even with strangers. It extends beyond material things to prestige, respect, happiness, peace of mind, etc. 
    At work, how often we let people get away with delivering shoddy work, doing an injustice to someone or cheating us just because we fear losing our peace of mind over an altercation! We allow incompetent people to underperform for fear of creating a situation and so losing our calm. 
    In financial situations, fear of loss makes us lose money! In the ’60s, reportedly a couple who invested big time in a single stock, PepsiCo, saw a major portion of their money vanish as the market took a downslide. This scared them so much that they not just dumped Pepsi, but never bought a single share after that. If they had only overcome that fear of loss, the same portion in PepsiCo would have been worth $3 million by now! 
    F o r courage is not just required for doing battle, but also for maintaining a sense of calm, for making money, for living a good life — in short for everything. The ‘fight or flight’ syndrome kicks in irrespective of the fact whether the thing we fear losing is physical, mental or a financial threat. 
    Those who can learn the trick of transcending this fear of loss, would find the courage to enjoy that which they love most while they still retain it. Says Jiddu Krishnamurty, “What is needed, rather than running away or controlling or suppressing or any other resistance, is understanding fear; that means, watch it, learn about it, come directly into contact with it. We are to learn about fear, not how to escape from it.” 
    Think of the worst that can possibly happen. Get used to the idea and accept it. From there on, things can only get better… and you can acquire courage even as you retain the object you feared losing, for you fear that no more. You know loss is a possibility and you are moving ahead with that in mind. 
    Says Dale Carnegie, “You can conquer almost any fear if you will only make up your mind to do so. For remember, fear doesn’t exist anywhere except in the mind.” 

P.S  Agree with this hands down! No arguments here!

You'd think...

Whether you like it, or you don't, people will let you down. Your euphoric highs and depressing lows won't mean anything to them.  It comes as a shock when you expect that they will react the way you think they should, since they know you, maybe are related to you, but they don't. The coldness feels icy.

Having no expectations from people is easier said than implemented. But what you can train yourself to do is pick up the tell tale signs that something is changing, and not overlook or ignore them. To brush them aside is setting yourself up for  the upcoming hurt. It's choosing to stay blindfolded and pretend that all's well. When it isn't. People change, circumstances change. They get busy, they get disinterested. If this is the way it turns out, was the relationship that shallow to begin with? Maybe yes. I would actually say yes. To be honest, when someone means something to you, you can ALWAYS find time even though you are insanely busy. You are always a part of their sadness and happiness. And aren't thought of when there isn't anyone else who'd hear them out. No one is bad here. Time changes situations, needs and people. To graciously accept those changes requires a lot.

Some people have no substitute, but if someone proves to you, that you are substitutable (if there is a word like that), then it's just not worth it.Not worth your time or the effort. Two quotes come to my mind : One  "Never advertise your sorrows, there's no market for them" and Two " Always tell your problems to 1% of people who really love you. 49 % are not interested and 50% are happy that you have a problem".

P.S As an after thought. I didn't intend this to be so drab and boring. So here is something that is Oh-So-Cute (Do click these words) If you like dogs cleaning your screen that is :-)