Some gyan

Reality depends on what you are willing to imagine and allow


A note to everyone:


It's difficult for me to be sad for long. I'm good again, smiling and looking forward with a lot of hope :-)

A little bit of ho hum...

Have you ever felt like running away to far off place, up in the mountains (or a valley below), where no one can find you, and you can't find anyone. Where you don't know anyone, and no one knows you. Where you don't care about anyone, and no one cares about you? If wishes were horses, I'd own a stable!

Life. Chaos is thy name. With a few moments in between when it lets you breathe and makes you feel all is well. Some fleeting moments that! Within a blink of the eye, things have gone ahead, taking you along with them, catching you unawares. Such is the state of affairs here. 

As much as you try, it's difficult to change the memories of the time gone by. Years may pass by, but they will remain the same. Your perspective might change, and that might change the person you are, but they remain. The whole series of what-ifs and why's. Of why did and why didn'ts. 

Some life experiences make you a better human being, and some make you bitter. Can you blame anyone else for it but yourself? 

Someone somewhere will always gets hurt by our actions. Whether we like it or we don't. Whether we intend it or we don't. Consciously or unconsciously we'd cause someone great grief. Sometimes, life doesn't give us any choices. Causing great anxiety and greater sorrow. How much sadness we've caused someone, or will cause someone, we will know one day. That will be the day we learn the lessons we didn't learn while we were supposed to. To perfect ourselves, we'll be granted another chance. Another lifetime. We know what's happening isn't right. But sometimes, it's just beyond us to change anything. We can't even refuse to be a part of it. Such is the dilemma. Such is the vicious circle. Such is life!

One day life will prove to us that what happened was for our own good. There wasn't another way. It will show us the signs. The hand of God. 

No matter how carefully you tread, you are bound to err. While we walk we trample so much that we see, and so much that we don't. 

The only hope is that our creator up above,watches us every second and realizes that we didn't do whatever we did with ill intentions. That our hearts were pure and only wanted good. For ourselves, the one's who lives we touch and one's whose lives we'll change forever.

Truly Madly Deeply

Exasperating! Thirteen hours of work with useless meetings thrown in for effect is seriously not my idea of fun. Everybody breathing down my neck is just making it worse. A rough estimate of the time I spend at home awake boils down to 2 hours, within which I must get ready and leave. What the hell ! (tears apart the little hair that remain). I know there are people who work for 14-16 hours a day and I royally salute them. Just that I don't feel I am up to it, hence I've decided to quit. I've no clue what I'm doing next, but what I am sure of is I'm not doing this anymore! I have had it up till here! I am not sure if it's my time to slow down and smell the roses yet , but I'd sure like some time to breathe. 

Which brings me to your next question. Why do I complain so much? Well, because at the moment, I don't have anything better to do! No actually I do. Just thought I'd update everyone! 

There was a phase when I had absolutely nothing to do, and there is now a phase when I don't have the time to do anything. Which out of the two is better, I don't know. Been there, done that, despise the former, loathe the latter. (Pssst. Dear God if you're listening, please give me a decent 9-5 job which I truly deserve. One that I'd look forward to every time I wake up in the morning!)

Sure you don't come here for weather updates, but since you are here, I might as well tell you, that these days it's been pouring like there is no tomorrow! The windows of my room rattle like they'd break any moment and I dig deeper into my quilt and then lousily and reluctantly get out of bed to go to work. Sigh!!

I have no clue what's happening to the world so today is the day I catch up. I've yet to get to each of your blogs, but I hope each of you is in the pink of health and has had a fantastic week so far! God bless you all and give you what you deserve!

The week that was

Alright! Here I am (again) to do what I think I do best (rant). I've been observing a pattern here(Data Mining in Computer jargon). I write a post and am gone. Comments trickle in and I reply when I find an elusive parameter- Time. I am not sure if any of you come back and read the replies, but for those of you who do, I reply! I swear I do( Baah! Like anyone cares. Ok why am I being so sarcastic! Pause)

I don't run a country, nor do I head a company. Yet I'd like to think I've little time for myself to do the things I like to do and could do with a few more hours per day (Long line huh). I am sure you understand my absence, but I thought I might as well say it, than leave it unsaid.

The week still whizzes by and I savagely and hungrily look forward to my two holidays per week.

Over educated and underemployed was always me. But now things have taken a new definition. It's overworked and underpaid (© Tranquility Speaks). You don't give me work, I complain. You give me work to do (God save you!), I'd complain some more. Everyone in the vicinity has been getting those complaining and angry sound bytes from me off late, so I thought, why must I spare you! (I believe in equality. You're welcome!)

When the month begins, when the week goes by. When the dawn breaks, when the night comes by. I have no idea. I know not who I am. I know not where I am heading. I seriously know not what I want. (Poor Tranquility is losing it. Tch. Old age. What can I say)

Things have gone awfully wrong in the recent past, but you'd be happy to know that your dear Stillness withstood it all through lots of tears (and the nose that starts flowing when she cries) and incoherent speeches over the phone to her 3:00 A.M friends. Then one day she remembered again to pray and take charge of her happiness. And things immediately took a turn for the better. And she is still living peacefully.

People eat to live. I live to eat. And sleep. Strictly in that order these days. That is all that I care about except holidays when I get to watch Tom and Jerry, music videos and soap operas on TV. The work pressure these days is tremendous and tempers fly thick and fast. Everyone is facing the heat and are letting it out on everyone else. What do people do? Some leave the job, and others rush to the loo! ( Breaking down in public doesn't look cool !

Watching TV never felt this good. Trust you me. I read somewhere that to be healthy, you must indulge in things that make you happy. To some it could be reading, to others, listening to music, or to others doing yoga. All work and no play makes Jack ( And Jill) a dull boy (and girl- No gender biases in my world!) Ironical that they taught me this when I used to be busy playing with my doll all day and didn't know what working meant. Gladly I haven't forgotten the saying with age.

During the course of this week I read this. It had a DEEP impact on me. Here goes:

The Moving Finger writes; and, having writ, 

Moves on: nor all your Piety nor Wit 

Shall lure it back to cancel half a Line, 

Nor all your Tears wash out a Word of it. 

The Rubaiyat -  Omar Khayyam

Made me think that the people who have lived before us, have had the same problems as us. Yet they realized and concluded some things, we are just beginning to understand. The generations that come after us will begin their life afresh. They will start from scratch. They will make their own beginnings and define their own endings. Somewhere in the middle they will realize, what their ancestors already knew . They will rediscover the legacy those who lived before them left behind. Every day creating their own history.
And yet we seem unable to deal with it all. Yet we lose precious time whining over the inconsequential. Maybe it won't matter 10 years from now. Just maybe it will. Every second choosing the life to come. Moving closer to our destiny every second. Do we create our own destiny in the here and now, or have we created it in a time before this, I shall never know.

But till I make an appearance again, here's wishing each of you a blessed and peaceful week. No matter how rushed life is, take the time to smell the roses and never leave home without your sense of humor (Something that I remember on my way to work each day :-) )

Worth considering

The 90/10 Principle

Author : Stephen Covey ( Management Guru)

Have you read this before? Discover the 90/10 Principle. It will change your life

(at least the way you react to situations). What is this principle?

10% of life is made up of what happens to you. 90% of life is decided by how you react. What does this mean?

We really have no control over 10% of what happens to us. We cannot stop the car from breaking down. The plane will be late arriving, which throws our whole schedule off. A driver may cut us off in traffic. We have no control over this 10%. The other 90% is different. You determine the other 90%.

How? By your reaction. You cannot control a red light., but you can control your reaction. Don't let people fool you; YOU can control how you react.

Let's use an example. You are eating breakfast with your family. Your

daughter knocks over a cup of coffee onto your business shirt. You have no control over what just what happened. What happens when the next will be determined by how you react.You curse. You harshly scold your daughter for

knocking the cup over.

She breaks down in tears. After scolding her, you turn to your spouse and criticize her for placing the cup too close to the edge of the table. A short verbal battle follows. You storm upstairs and change your shirt. Back downstairs, you find your daughter has been too busy crying to finish breakfast and get ready for school. She misses the bus. Your spouse must leave

immediately for work.

You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school. Because you are late, you drive 40 miles an hour in a 30 mph speed limit. After a 15-minute delay and

throwing $60 traffic fine away, you arrive at school. Your daughter runs into the building without saying goodbye. After arriving at the office 20 minutes late, you find you forgot your briefcase. Your day has started terrible. As it continues, it seems to get worse and worse. You look forward to coming home, When you arrive home, you find small wedge in your relationship with your

spouse and daughter.

Why? Because of how you reacted in the morning. Why did you have a bad day?

A) Did the coffee cause it?

B) Did your daughter cause it?

C) Did the policeman cause it?

D) Did you cause it?

The answer is " D".

You had no control over what happened with the coffee. How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day. Here is what could have and should have happened.

Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry. You gently say, "It's ok honey, you just need, to be more careful next time". Grabbing a towel you rush

upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt and your briefcase, you come back down in time to look through the window and see your child getting on the bus. She turns and waves. You arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff. Your boss comments on how good the day you are having.

Notice the difference? Two different scenarios. Both started the same. Both

ended different.

Why? Because of how you REACTED. You really do not have any control over 10% of what happens. The other 90% was determined by your reaction.

Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 principle. If someone says something negative about you, don't be a sponge. Let the attack roll off like water on glass. You don't have to let the negative comment affect you! React properly and it will not ruin your day. A wrong reaction could result in losing a friend, being fired, getting stressed out etc.

How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic? Do you lose your temper? Pound on the steering wheel? A friend of mine had the steering wheel fall off)

Do you curse? Does your blood pressure skyrocket? Do you try and bump them? WHO CARES if you arrive ten seconds later at work? Why let the cars ruin your drive? Remember the 90/10 principle, and do not worry about it.

You are told you lost your job. Why lose sleep and get irritated? It will work out. Use your worrying energy and time into finding another job. The plane is late; it is going to mangle your schedule for the day. Why take out your frustration on the flight attendant? She has no control over what is going on. Use your time to study, get to know the other passenger. Why get stressed out? It will just make things worse. Now you know the 90-10 principle. Apply it and you will be amazed at the results. You will lose nothing if you try it.

The 90-10 principle is incredible. Very few know and apply this principle.

The result? Millions of people are suffering from undeserved stress, trials, problems and heartache. We all must understand and apply the 90/10 principle.

It CAN change your life!!!

 P.S No harm in trying right?